The term “helicopter parent” refers to a guardian who resembles a helicopter by hovering closely over offspring.
The comparison between super-involved parents and aircrafts was first made in 1969 by Dr. Haim Ginott. Ginott’s book Between Parent and Teenager included examples of guardians who monitored and “helped” their children do almost everything. Helicopter parents sometimes do children’s homework and/or choose friends for their children during their youth. In adulthood, helicopter parents may contact college professors and employers on behalf of their grown children. In many cases, the adult offspring wishes the parent would be less invasive. Careful, hyper-involved parenting is usually done out of a loving desire to shield children from physical and emotional pain. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always yield optimistic results in the long run. Helicopter parents can have negative and positive impacts on the physical, social, and mental health of children.
This chart shows there are more drawbacks than benefits for children raised by helicopter parents. To prevent raising a child with the problems described above, parents with hovering tendencies can identify causes of their over-involvement. Thereafter, the adults can take steps to ease up so their children are granted freedom to achieve independent success.
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